When the future you imagined is suddenly changed

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I started my counselling training because I sadly discovered first hand the gap in the world of counsellors that understood pregnancy loss and miscarriage. Counsellors that were able to deeply understand and hold the complex grief that arises when you loose a much wanted future.

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The grief, the guilt, the self blame, the fear, the despair.. The numbness.

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My journey started with my own losses and then half a decade of supporting women and partners through their pregnancy loss journey working as a Specialist Nurse in a busy Early Pregnancy Unit (EPU) and now as a counsellor. these three angles of the loss journey mean I can offer a deep knowing of the different journeys that couples take. The wait between scans. The bleeding, the pain. The bad news.

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The way it can affect relationships when two people greive differently.

 

The way it can affect our view of ourselves and our bodies. So many women sadly feel their bodies have let them down. Or that maybe they did something wrong.... was it that extra coffee? 

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I am also aware of how it can affect our future moving forward. The choice to try again . The fear in subsequent pregnancies. The superstitious behaviours that can take over!

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So if sadly you have found your way here to my page, I see you. I know how tough this journey is. I know the "at least..." silver linings well meaning loved ones impart . I know that after a while people stop checking in. I know the ugly thoughts when you get invited to a baby shower.

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Whatever your experience, including abortion or a termination for medical reasons, you’re welcome here, and you don’t have to justify how you feel.

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Together, we can explore what this has meant for you and how it has affected your relationships, your hopes for the future and, perhaps most importantly, your relationship with yourself.

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You do not have to carry it alone.

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Areas I cover: miscarriage, recurrent miscarriage, stillbirth, termination for medical reasons (TFMR), molar pregnancy, ectopic pregnancy, abortion, and pregnancy after loss.

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I’m a BACP registered counsellor, have attended extra training with Petals, SANDS and The Foundation for Infant Loss , and am an approved counsellor with ARC (Antenatal Results and Choices).

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If you’d like to talk, I offer a free, no-obligation call so you can see whether I feel like the right person for you.